not the onlydeadbeats.
"She" can be one too!
When you look at the deadbeat sites, ask yourself if you're
behaving like a deadbeat, and remember that men are victims of "her"
deadbeat mentality also.
Whether you are a custodial parent, a non-custodial parent, a
first wife, a second wife, a girlfriend, a boyfriend, ask yourself if you're behaving in
the best interest of the child.
dh - darling husband
bm - biomom
ss - stepson
sd - stepdaughter
dd - darling daughter
ds - darling son
@'97 Ss's favorite
maternal aunt is dying of cancer. He's at our home with his paternal
grandmother. He says, "Mom says that if she died, I'd have to go
live with Aunt Susan. But now that Aunt Susan is dying, where would I
go if Mom died?" Grandma says stunned, "You'd be
living with your Dad!" Ss says, "Mom says she wouldn't allow
that." Grandma repeats, "You'd be living with your Dad."
02/15/98 The aunt dies. Another aunt calls from AZ to tell dh that all but
bm will be staying in AZ to take care of the woman's estate, and bm is so
upset, she needs ss to skip his weekend with his dad and take his mom home to
An 12 yo boy taking care of an upset bipolar?!? What about his
Dh wasn't given any say about the matter and didn't talk to his son.
Summer '99 dh won
@ '96 Bm says that ss has again forgotten clothes at our home.
Dh tells her he'll give ss any clothes we find at the campout. Bm
says she's not asking dh to look for and mail the clothes, she's telling
him. Dh repeats that he'll return any found clothes to ss at the
campout. Bm yells, "You better bring him everything he needs for the
campout cuz I'm not sending him with anything!" Dh said, "Then
send the clothes I bought him." Bm screams, "I don't
have a box that's big enuf!"
@'99 One time bm said he'd left 2
pairs of jeans. We find 2 pairs that don't belong to my kids, and send
them back. She angrily exclaims they aren't his, and demands money to
replace the jeans. We refuse. She says if we don't have money for jeans
with us when we pick up ss, she'll be taking it out of his allowance. Dh
arrives to pick up @10yo ss. Bm angrily majestically demands, "Do you
have the money?" Dh replies no. She dramatically turns to ss to
announce, "Then you owe me $40!!!" Ss didn't care. He was
jumping up and down so happy to be leaving with his dad. Bm pays him $2 a
week allowance. She doesn't know that since court improved visitation we
pay him $10 a week. He's not upset about losing her allowance.