Men are
not the only deadbeats.
"She" can be one too!
When you look at the deadbeat sites, ask yourself if you're
behaving like a deadbeat, and remember that men are victims of "her"
deadbeat mentality also.
Whether you are a custodial parent, a non-custodial parent, a
first wife, a second wife, a girlfriend, a boyfriend, ask yourself if you're behaving in
the best interest of the child.
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When bm had custody and visitation was improved for dh, bm would call ss, "Your
cat misses you...your cat won't eat..."
We offered to have ss's cat accompany him anytime.
Bm was stumped, and didn't say a word over the phone. Ss kept asking
about bringing his cat. Bm stopped calling ss about how the cat
needed him.
Dh won custody summer '99.
All of the visitation order had been negotiated except
ss's cat. In the evaluation it was stated that it was ss's cat, but bm was
not willing to let the cat go live at our home.
Our attorney, dh and I are in the entry way between doors
by the court, a very small space. As usual, bm, like her mother, doesn't
care about our right to privacy, and she comes in the small space to
give our attny papers that could have waited, and eavesdrop. The bailiff walks in asking if we're
almost done. Our attny says, "The only hangup is the cat." The
bailiff LOL and leaves. We can't help but chuckle a bit
too.
Suddenly bm's face blanches and, as tho it was a hot potato, bm was willing to let the cat go
live with ss at his dad's home.
I think her fear of being laughed at by everyone in court was larger
than her need for control over her son regarding the cat.
Concerned Stepmom
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dh - darling husband
bm - biomom
ss - stepson
sd - stepdaughter
dd - darling daughter
ds - darling son
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