Once visitation was improved '96, bm used to try different manipulations regarding the washing of clothes. She told ss his
clothes couldn't be washed with ours, I wasn't allowed to wash his clothes
cuz I use a dryer rather than hanging his clothes up to dry...Her demands
didn't change how we do things in our home.
When visitation had improved, 10yo ss had to learn that in
our home the kids are self-sufficient. He used to stand outside the
kitchen floor waiting for someone to go by to ask them to get him
something to eat or drink. In our home the kids can get their own
snacks, drinks, and their own dinner when they need to.
One time my eldest daughter was babysitting the kids.
She bought them Mc Donalds. Ss waited patiently at the table for my daughter
to unpack his kid's meal. My eldest told him he could unpack his own kid's
Ss wasn't familiar with a microwave, searching thru
leftovers for a snack, preparing his own food. He's learning.
My daughters wash their own clothes.
Once dh won custody summer '99, ss began washing his own clothes
Bm still attempts manipulations regarding ss's wash.
She wanted him to bring his laundry where she'd wash his clothes then she
changes her mind and demands the laundry be done before he goes to her
home - back and forth, back and forth, trying to intrude.
Doesn't change what our family does. Ss can wash his
clothes or not. His problem, her game.