Men are not the only

"She" can be one too!

Whether you are a custodial parent, a non-custodial parent, a first wife, a second wife, a girlfriend, a boyfriend, ask yourself if you're behaving in the best interest of the child.   

 

@'98 Bm told dh's wonderfulexgirlfriend that she wouldn't put it past dh and I to make 12yo ss have sex with my 13yo daughter so he'd want to live with us.  Wonderfulexgirlfriend called dh to let him know. 

Concerned Stepmom

 

9/3/99 The custody evaluator calls.  Bm told the evaluator Mark signed papers long ago giving up all custody rights.  Dh asked the evaluator, "Did (bm) bring in these papers?!?"  She said no.  Dh reiterated that he'd never signed over all custody rights.

Concerned Stepmom

 

99 Bm told the evaluator that dh is perverted and she hoped that I was having a good effect on him regarding that. 

*grin* Yes I am, and enjoying every minute of it.

Concerned stepmom 

ps. Bm hasn't had a relationship, let alone a date, since '86.

 

@9/99 Ss is sobbing after a phone call with his mother about his mother's depression since he left to live with his dad. He's wracked with guilt.  I sit this tall 13yo ss on my lap to comfort him and decide he needs to know.  "(Ss) Haven't you ever noticed your mom's depression before?" He replies no.  I said, "She's bipolar." He replies, "OMG, I know what that is!" I said, "How do you know what that is?" He says the name of a tv show.  He calmed right down. Things made sense now.  He hasn't let her "sadness" manipulate him again.

Concerned Stepmom

 

9/2000 My daughters are talking about their dad trying to use guilt, "Don't you want to be with me?" Ss says, "Yeh, my mom does that too."  They're all learning the sometimes painful lesson of recognizing toxic guilt and sidestepping it.

Concerned Stepmom