not the onlydeadbeats.
"She" can be one too!
When you look at the deadbeat sites, ask yourself if you're
behaving like a deadbeat, and remember that men are victims of "her"
deadbeat mentality also.
Whether you are a custodial parent, a non-custodial parent, a
first wife, a second wife, a girlfriend, a boyfriend, ask yourself if you're behaving in
the best interest of the child.
'99 Bm told the evaluator that dh is perverted and she hoped
that I was having a good effect on him regarding that.
*grin* Yes I am, and enjoying every minute of it.
ps. Bm hasn't had a relationship, let alone a date, since
'96 Ss asked dh if he'd ever had custody of him. Dh said
yes. Ss said, "Mom said you never had custody of me." Dh said,
"Your mom's mistaken." Ss said, "Mom said you're
lying." Dh replied, "I have the papers. Do you feel the need to
see them?" Ss said, "Yes!" Dh said, "Can it wait til
tomorrow?" Ss said no. Dh showed ss the papers explaining he had
custody til 11/90. Ss turned white and didn't say a word. Dh repeated that
bm was just mistaken.
"Marriage is the triumph of imagination over
intelligence. Second marriage is the triumph of hope over experience."
Dh picked up bms 05/27/97 letter. Bm wrote, On Saturday, May 24, 1997,
the first thing he
said to me was, Hi, guess what? I havent lost any of my clothes.
Then I heard (my daughter) in the background say Were
destroying them! and then she giggled. I asked (ss), Did she just say theyre destroying
them? Then (ss) said,
(my daughter) said shes just kidding. Well, (dh), it appears that (my daughter) isnt good at keeping
secrets. If she and others
in your household have been destroying (ss's) clothes, then I
expect you to take the appropriate measures to halt such deviant
Dh wrote bm, I received your 05/27/97 postmarked
05/27/97 letter today.
Im sure [ss], [my daughter], all of us, and any
one reading your letter (including a judge or mediator) would realize
that what [my daughter] said was a harmless childs joke with her
stepbrother and realize that no one was destroying his clothes."
@'98 Bm told dh's wonderfulexgirlfriend that she wouldn't put it
dh and I to make 12yo ss have sex with my 13yo daughter so he'd want
to live with us. Wonderfulexgirlfriend called dh to let him know.
9/3/99 The custody evaluator calls. Bm told the evaluator Mark signed
papers long ago giving up all custody rights. Dh asked the evaluator,
"Did (bm) bring in these papers?!?" She said no. Dh
reiterated that he'd never signed over all custody rights.
dh - darling husband
bm - biomom
ss - stepson
sd - stepdaughter
dd - darling daughter
ds - darling son